"I judged single mothers until I became one" — Relationship coach shares emotional story

A woman identified as Princess Janet has publicly apologised for judging single mothers, revealing how life eventually placed her in the very situation she once criticised.

Janet, who describes herself as a relationship coach, shared her story on Facebook, admitting that she spent years believing single motherhood was the result of poor choices or bad character.

She recalled opposing her brother's relationship with a single mother, insisting the woman was not good enough for him.

"If there was an award for judging single mothers, I probably would have won it," she wrote.

According to Janet, she believed that remaining a virgin until marriage, respecting her husband, praying, submitting and enduring hardship would guarantee a successful marriage.

However, despite doing what she believed were all the "right" things, her marriage fell apart.

Now 32 years old and raising four children alone, she said her husband abandoned her after years of infidelity and emotional abuse.

"I fought. I prayed. I fasted. I forgave. I submitted. I respected him. I became smaller and smaller just to make room for his ego," she wrote.

She revealed that the biggest irony was that her husband eventually left her for a single mother of two—the very type of woman she had once looked down on.

"Life forced me to become the very woman I had judged."

Reflecting on her experience, Janet said she has come to understand that becoming a single mother is not a sign of failure or immorality.

"Being a single mother is not a character flaw. It is not proof that a woman is immoral. It is not evidence that she failed. Sometimes it simply means she loved someone who failed her."

She added that life has taught her to stop judging people based on their circumstances.

"Good women get divorced. Faithful women get abandoned. Prayerful women get cheated on. Kind women become single mothers. Life doesn't always reward people the way we expect."

Concluding her post, Janet urged people to show more compassion instead of condemnation.

"These days, when I see a single mother, I don't ask myself, 'What did she do wrong?' I ask, 'What has she survived?' Because now I know. Sometimes the strongest women are the ones raising children alone after giving everything they had to save a marriage that only one person was fighting for."

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